Big Dildo FAQ: Everything You Need to Know About Buying and Using Large Dildos
Whether you’re a first-time buyer or a seasoned enthusiast, this comprehensive guide answers the most common questions about buying, using, and enjoying big dildos. From choosing the right size to safety tips and fetish dildos, we’ve got you covered.
What type of dildo should I get?
The best dildo for you is the one that excites you the moment you see it — arousal starts long before insertion. That said, there are some practical considerations worth thinking through before you buy.
If you’re planning to use your dildo for anal play, always choose one with a flared base to prevent it from being drawn in. Our range of anal dildos can be found here. For vaginal use, you have far more flexibility in shape and size. If you’re a beginner, start with something smaller and work your way up — there’s no rush, and your body will thank you. If you want to use a dildo with a partner, look at strap-on-compatible dildos or double-ended dildos designed for shared pleasure.
Material matters too. Silicone dildos are body-safe, non-porous, and easy to clean, making them the most popular choice. Dildos made of more dense material are firm, temperature-responsive, and ideal for G-spot or P-spot stimulation. TPE and PVC dildos are softer and more affordable but are porous, so they require a condom for safer shared use.
The options really are almost endless — the key is knowing what you want from the experience.
What size dildo should I start with?
If you’re new to dildos, starting with something close to average penis size — around 5 to 6 inches in length and 1.5 inches in diameter — is a sensible choice. Our not quite so enormous dildos can be found here. This gives you the chance to get used to the sensation before progressing to larger sizes.
If your goal is eventually to use large or giant dildos, treat it as a gradual journey. Regular use, plenty of lubrication, and patience will allow your body to accommodate progressively bigger toys over time. Rushing the process can cause discomfort or injury, so listen to your body at every stage.
Why do people buy huge dildos?
There are many reasons people seek out extra large or giant dildos. For many, it’s about the sensation of fullness — the feeling of being completely stretched and filled in a way that’s difficult or impossible to achieve with an average-sized partner. This intensity of stimulation can lead to stronger, more satisfying orgasms.
For others, the appeal is purely visual. A massive dildo is inherently exciting to look at, and that visual arousal is part of the experience. There’s also an element of fantasy — huge dildos represent sizes that simply don’t exist in everyday life, which adds to their appeal as a fantasy object.
Some people also enjoy the personal challenge of working up to a very large dildo, treating it as a goal to work toward over time.
How do I use a huge dildo safely?
sing a large dildo safely is all about preparation, patience, and plenty of lubrication. Unlike standard-sized dildos, which can often be used with minimal prep, big dildos require a more considered approach.
Start with foreplay to relax your body and increase natural lubrication. Apply a generous amount of lube — far more than you think you’ll need — and reapply throughout. Choose a lube that’s compatible with your dildo’s material: water-based lube is safe for all dildo types, while silicone-based lube should not be used with silicone dildos as it can degrade the material.
Find a comfortable position — for most people this means lying on their back with knees bent, which allows maximum control over depth and angle. Insert the dildo slowly and gradually, pausing whenever you need to. Never force it. If you feel sharp pain rather than pleasurable pressure, stop immediately.
It’s also worth noting that very large dildos carry a risk of internal injury if used carelessly. Always use toys with a flared base for anal play, and consider using a harness or suction cup mount to give you better control.
How do I take a huge dildo for the first time?
Taking a large dildo for the first time requires preparation both mentally and physically. The more relaxed you are, the easier and more pleasurable the experience will be — tension in the pelvic floor muscles makes insertion significantly harder.
Begin with foreplay, either alone or with a partner, to warm up and increase your natural lubrication and arousal. Apply lubricant generously to both yourself and the dildo. Start in your most comfortable sexual position and begin inserting the dildo very slowly, stopping to adjust whenever needed. Breathing deeply and consciously relaxing your muscles will make a significant difference.
Don’t aim to take the full length on your first attempt. Going halfway and getting used to the girth is a perfectly valid starting point. Over multiple sessions, you’ll find you can comfortably accommodate more.
Can I share a dildo with a partner?
Yes – dildos are a fantastic addition to partnered sex. If you’re sharing a dildo, thorough cleaning between uses is essential. Never transfer a dildo from anal use to vaginal use without washing it first, as this can introduce harmful bacteria.
For safer shared use, particularly with dildos made from porous materials, using a condom over the toy is strongly recommended. This is especially important if either partner has an STI.
Dildos are also an excellent choice for pegging — where one partner uses a harness and a strap-on dildo to penetrate the other (at BDUK we have a range of strap on sets that save you when compared to buying harness and dildo individually) — and double-ended dildos are specifically designed for simultaneous use by two people. Although double ended dildos can be used by everyone they can be found in our lesbian dildo section.
Can you use a dildo as a butt plug?
Many dildos can be used as a butt plug, though there are some important safety considerations. Any toy used anally must have a flared base or retrieval cord to prevent it from being fully inserted — the rectum can draw objects in, and removal without a flared base can be extremely difficult and potentially dangerous.
Dildos designed for anal use tend to have smoother surfaces and softer, more pliable materials to reduce discomfort. If you’re using a dildo as a butt plug for extended wear, choose one that’s comfortable at the widest point and doesn’t require constant muscle engagement to keep in place.
What lubricant should I use with a big dildo?
Lubrication is non-negotiable when using large dildos. The type of lube you choose matters depending on your dildo’s material.
Water-based lubricants are the safest all-round choice — compatible with all dildo materials and easy to clean up. They do dry out more quickly than other types, so you’ll need to reapply frequently, which is especially relevant with large dildos that require extended use.
Silicone-based lubricants last longer and provide a silkier feel, but must never be used with silicone dildos as they will break down the material over time. They’re a good option for glass or stainless steel dildos.
Oil-based lubricants are not recommended for use with latex condoms and can degrade certain toy materials, so check compatibility carefully before use.
How do I clean and care for my dildo?
Cleaning your dildo properly after every use is essential for hygiene and longevity. The cleaning method depends on the material.
Non-porous materials like silicone, and stainless steel can be washed with warm water and mild soap, or boiled for deeper sterilisation (silicone and stainless steel only — never boil glass). These materials are the most hygienic because they don’t harbour bacteria.
Porous materials like TPE, PVC, and rubber cannot be fully sterilised. Always use a condom with these toys, especially for anal use or when sharing. Clean with warm water and soap and allow to dry fully before storage.
Store your dildos in a clean, dry place — ideally in individual cotton pouches or the original packaging — to prevent dust accumulation and material degradation.
Why do people like animal dildos and fantasy dildos?
Fantasy and animal-shaped dildos have grown enormously in popularity and there are very good reasons why. These toys offer features that conventional human-shaped dildos simply can’t replicate: unusual textures, exotic shapes, dramatic size options, and distinctive glans designs that stimulate in entirely different ways.
Horse dildos, for example, are popular among size enthusiasts for their impressive girth and length. Tentacle dildos offer a uniquely rippled texture that creates intense stimulation along the entire length during insertion. Dragon dildos and other fantasy designs often feature pronounced ridges, knots, and curves that target internal erogenous zones in ways a smooth dildo cannot. Fantasy shaped dildos can be found in the speciality dildos section.
The appeal is rooted in fantasy and novelty — these toys allow people to explore scenarios that exist purely in the imagination, safely and consensually. It’s worth stating clearly that interest in fantasy animal dildos has absolutely nothing to do with bestiality, which is both illegal and harmful. These toys are about fantasy, texture, and size — not animals themselves.
Wild Animus is a combination bundle that contains a dog dildo and two horse dildos.
Why do men enjoy pegging?
Pegging — where a person uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate a male partner anally — is increasingly popular, and the reasons go beyond the purely physical.
From a physiological perspective, the prostate gland is the primary draw. Located between the bladder and the rectum, the prostate is densely packed with nerve endings and, when stimulated correctly, can produce intensely pleasurable sensations — sometimes described as more powerful than those achieved through penile stimulation alone. Prostate orgasms are a real and achievable experience for many men.
Beyond the physical, many men enjoy pegging for psychological reasons: the taboo around male anal receptivity, the vulnerability of the receiving role, or the power dynamic involved when there’s an element of dominance and submission in the encounter. Others simply enjoy the intimacy of exploring something new with a trusted partner.
Does enjoying pegging or anal play mean I'm gay?
No — this is one of the most common misconceptions around male anal play, and it’s worth addressing clearly. Sexual orientation is about who you’re attracted to, not which parts of your body you enjoy having stimulated.
The prostate gland doesn’t have a sexual orientation. Enjoying prostate stimulation or the sensation of being penetrated is a physiological response, not an indicator of who you’re attracted to. Straight men who enjoy pegging are still straight. The two things are entirely unrelated.
If you’re exploring anal play for the first time and finding you enjoy it, that’s simply useful information about your body and what brings you pleasure — nothing more.
Are big dildos safe to use?
Large dildos are safe to use when used correctly, with the right preparation and appropriate equipment. The key safety principles are: always use plenty of lubrication, never rush insertion, choose toys with flared bases for anal use, and stop immediately if you experience sharp or persistent pain.
Avoid dildos made from unknown or unverified materials — cheap toys from unregulated manufacturers may contain harmful chemicals. Stick to body-safe materials such as medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, or stainless steel wherever possible.
Can big dildos cause injury?
Rushed or careless use of large dildos can cause injury, including internal tears or bruising. This risk is significantly reduced by using adequate lubrication, progressing gradually, and listening to your body. Sharp pain is always a signal to stop.
For anal use in particular, never use a toy without a flared base, as objects can become lodged in the rectum, requiring medical intervention to remove.
With the right preparation, the vast majority of people use large dildos comfortably and safely throughout their lives.
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